Top success secrets you must know to beat failures

How bad of me! I tried hard yet I have failed in my exams. My heart is aching to think that my all friends have passed but I alone am left to drag behind. I am feeling lonely, but I don’t want to meet anyone, because they will ask about my exams.

Edward

If you are a fellow in action – unsatisfactory results can come your way. And over this you might stew, worry or better – run into depression like fictitious Edward.

BANG.

Actually this is the perfect opportunity for you to grow, improve, succeed and enjoy life in earnest.

Agree not with the above statement. agreeing with it without putting it to pass the test of understanding won’t be useful. Hmm, let us test the whole success-failure thing.

Is snaching superb marks the true success? But you might say many in the successful chunk such as Charles Dickens and Suchin Tendulkar had irregular studies.

Is landing on high-status jobs the true success? Now you might tell me the names of Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, Albert Einstein – not to name Mahatma Gandhi or Nelson Mandela.

But, folks around us get stuck with such stupid, incorrect view of success – consequently depriving themselves from achieving the true success. Never allow those folks to put their unrealistic view into your head.

From whence then comes the true success?

The real success gushes forth from the passion to move on with a joyous heart even if besieged with failures.

Thomas Edison failed more than a thousand times before inventing the electric bulb. He said, "I am not discouraged, because every wrong attempt discarded is another step forward."

A predominant characteristic of ultimate achievers is that at every failure they eliminate ineffective techniques and keep on implementing new methods till they snatch success.

If you, in true sense, want to be successful – alter your perception of success. Don’t worry over small failures because they often prevent a person with talent to achieve true success.

There are people who have suffered huge failures but did not allow self-guilt to impede their actions.

You all know the war of Cargill in which Pakistan suffered a shameful defeat. Pervez Musharraf was the person to lead the Pakistani army to retreat. Instead of drowning in self-guilt or shame, he overthrew the democratically elected government and took the reins in his hands.

Place yourself in his situation – had you been able to face your countrymen and international media after such a debacle?

Only those who think that they have failed, fail. But those who choose to strive against odds emerge successful.

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Your friend was catching up an accelerated speed at his career track but a speed breaker activated power brakes putting a halt to that bustle. Pieces of encouragement like “You should come out of this sadness” or “Be positive” have gone in vain. And your constant care is bothering him because he doesn’t want his condition to attract attention.

Let me ask you a question before writing more:

What you feel when after a long gap you smell the soap or perfume you have earlier used for months or years? Hang in there and think!

Hang in there! Read further but first try to answer my question.

Let me guess…

Hmm, you unconsciously recollect the old time and slightly link yourself to it. Ever put on a T-shirt for a long time? Put it on again and you are with a shade of emotions of those old days. Right?

But tell me what on earth this has to do with encouraging a person?

By playing smartly with your friend’s unconscious mind, you can indirectly encourage him even if he is not so open to talk about his problem.

Say, if your friend had interest in photography, chat with him up about the incident when he was praised due to his skill or ask and push him to show you the photographs he had clicked and bounded over with joy and merriment. The effect of those beloved photographs will land him to the joy he had felt when he was in the buzz of activity.

His passion, hard work, admirations and all that crazy stuff will come afresh to him. The powerful feelings linked to the time which was the prime of his career will trigger a kind of joyous tides in his heart producing a bittersweet sentiment.

Sounds impractical? But when the odor of an insignificant product can refresh the old memories making you feel a reflection of the emotions of that time, then why cannot the things which were once so dear to your friend produce some tiny tides of joy in his heart?

Now you have to convert these tiny tides to a raging hurricane so that the dust of dullness and depression can be swept off – putting your friend back on the progress track.

But how to do that?

Advertisements can fetch you superb ideas. Advertisers fan our emotions in a manner that we link them to their products. When we watch Salman Khan saying in a risk-welcoming tone “Aj kuch tufani karte hain,” (Let’s do anything stormy today), our emotions intensify and we feel that Thums Up is meant for people who are fashionable, who are risk-welcoming, who know how to enjoy life etc. And when we toss open the bottle and gulp that injurious beverage, a reflection of the joy we had felt while watching the ad runs in our unconscious mind.

If you ride a Discover, you have a passion for speed and solidity. If you consume Panbahar Crystal, you are special and rich. If you use Everest for cooking food, you are a mom with lots of smarts.

The crux is to put the emotions of your friend to such an extreme that he links himself to the joy he had felt and can feel by restarting his old lifestyle.

Six tips to make a good resume

So what does it take to compose a perfect resume? A resume that could compel your potential recruiter to do an interview with you for that dream job? Remember your resume it is that positions the human resource person to form an idea about the kind of employee you can prove for the company.

A slip at this first correspondence and your chances for getting on that job are hacked. “This guy is not serious for the job,” the resume reviewer might declare. A cliché would be worth mentioning here: first impression is the last.

So a few tips to help you choreograph a good resume.

1. Write precise headings: Precise headings such as “Editing of sport section” remove ambiguity about the task you have undertaken. If you write “Editing” it will oblige the HR to read further which is highly improbable – given the workload of browsing numberless resumes to select a few. Resumes with specific headings are read in detail, not those with unclear headings. Let not the busy HR trash your resume because of imprecise, ambiguous headings.
2. Use rich keywords: Recruiters use ATS (Automated Tracking System) to skim over the resumes of potential employees. Resumes that are not keyword-rich don’t come in the radar of ATS, consequently filtering off loads of resumes. Ads and descriptions of the jobs you are applying for contain strong keywords, so write them in your resume in a manner that it does not amount to wordiness. Keyword stuffing will trim your chances of getting the interview call. And keyword weakness might throw your resume off the sight – so strike the right balance.
3. Support your claims: If you enlist the talents or skills you possess (i.e. leadership, creativity, practicality), supply some examples to support them – such as “Lead a team to take signatures of industrialists for manufacturing environmental-friendly products” or “Created an ap for farmers to know about the specific climate conditions” etc. merely writing your qualities will prompt the HR to search for evidence so that she can be convinced by your claims. Absence of evidence here will imply negativity.
4. Hobbies: If you do decide to mention hobbies, they must match the job profile in some way. Mention them only if you feel their mention is giving a hint to the HR that it will be a complement to the job profile. For example, you can write “Travelling,” “Meeting people,” etc., for an opening in journalism. Don’t write “Playing with children” as I did or “Chatting with friends” as others might do. The thirst for expressing hobbies should be quenched in a different company, not with prospective employers.
5. Pronouns: Your resume is a document about yourself, so it is a given that you will talk about yourself in it. Therefore, there is no need of using pronouns such as “I” and “me”.
6. Proofreading: Proofreading is an extremely crucial part of resume composing. To err is human, and it is very likely that you might make mistakes in writing lower case or upper case, in mentioning the names, phone numbers or addresses, so proofread your resume as many times as sufficient. You can also get a friend or any professional to review your resume before sending it out to your potential recruiter.

There are a host of other tips to making a resume as well, but I mentioned only a few. Were these tips helpful for you? Can you put any suggestions across? Want to share your views or any learning experience with the readers of this blog? Please do write your comments.

Eight tips to overcome ragging

Tips such as ‘Ignore them’ or ‘Be strong’ contain wisdom but very often we fail to apply them when surrounded by insensitive and merciless leg pullers. Yes, ‘Ragging is a small issue’, yet it often makes you feel miserable, so I am writing here the tips that worked excellently with me.

• Q: Know a simple fact that those who indulge in ragging are childish fellows. Treat them as you treat children. You will start enjoying their stupidity. If, amid an uproar of laughter you are able to genuinely smile, it would be overwhelming. Believe me, a couple of genuine smiles and casual retorts (i.e. ‘You are talking nonsense’ or ‘I think you seem to be crazier today’) have the potential to frustrate the entire bunch.
• W: Be full of ambition. Soichiro Honda had to face insulting laughter of his instructors and fellow students for a long time after his piston ring, which he created using his whole wealth, was rejected by Toyota. If he had cared about that ragging, we would have not heard the automobile company Honda. Schopenhauer had said it long ago: "Vulgar people take huge delight in the faults and follies of great men."
• E: Don’t keep retorting if a group is ragging you. Let them pass a lot of comments, this will somewhat tire them and decrease their interest. At a suitable time, confront the leader fearlessly and carelessly, your unexpected audacity would knock the stuffing out of him. Contrary to the popular opinion, many times people enjoy to see their leader under fire, so the chances for you to get a silent support are high. And the belief that only excessive or loud talk can help you overpower ragging is baseless.
• R: You might not be good at repartee. Don’t worry. Your brisk expressions matter much more than a quick-witted retort said unconfidently. Just remark fearlessly and casually as said above.
• T: If you have a group ragging you, and you feel that alone you are helpless, then you are totally incorrect. On the contrary, a little spark of cheerfulness is enough for you to make them sad because they will realize your unmoved will and their inability to derive enjoyment out of you. You don’t know the joy you get by sending a crowded bunch of leg pullers in a state of unexpected nervousness. Only your loneliness can offer this opportunity to you!
• Y: Don’t escape your leg pullers, because among other points, A: within your heart you might feel that you are weak, B: they will hunt you, and C: as it is rightly said – escaping from a problem is never a solution. Instead, if the situation requires you to go to them, shock them by plunging yourself among them energetically and cheerfully. Your body language plays a key role in holding back the leg pullers. Keep it dashing.
• U: Know it very properly that your leg pullers are inflicting losses on themselves. This I understood after worrying and burning terribly as two people sharply taunted and abused me pretty continuously. I was so frustrated that I felt like beating myself or getting violent with them, which they probably wanted. But one day I thought that they naturally are inflicting losses on themselves by wasting one of the best God’s gifts, which is time. Had I indulged in taking revenge, I would have not been able to inflict a tenth part of the injury that those adult kids caused to themselves.
• I: Thank your leg pullers because they remarkably help you develop your personality. You hatch out new ways of handling people and, this, besides making you resilient, sometimes compels you to go against your personality, which unbelievably hones your soft skills.

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