Two negotiating stupidities we do to look dumb

Ever surveyors and salesmen cheated you?

See how I was cheated to save yourself.

While I waited for my bus reading TheHindu, two girls of around 22 years invited me in their company’s survey, but I refused their invitation.

“Okay, thank you,” said the girls, requesting, taking out their pen and notebook, “but can you please take out some time to answer a few quick questions?”

I dislike answering irrelevant questions and getting interrupted in reading, but I couldn’t refuse again.

Questioning about the soap, shampoo, toothpaste, internet I use; if I prefer branded clothes etc., they lastly asked, attentively looking in my eyes, “Sir, you gave us a considerable time, though you were engaged in reading. Can we know if we had directly demanded your ten minutes instead of first asking you to come to our company premises, would you have agreed?”

I returned their attentive look, realizing – “I would have not let you take my time if you had directly requested me to answer your questions” – but fearing its rudeness, I hesitated and paused.

“Sir,” said the girls, reading my expressions, “we are sorry – we neither belong to any company nor we are conducting any survey. We are psychology students experimenting the rule of concession with people. You would have not disengaged yourself from reading if we had requested you to give us ten minutes. Right?”

I said “Yes.”

“That’s why,” continued the girls, “we first kept forth a request requiring significant effort (coming to our company to participate in a survey) and then contrasted it with a small request, and you agreed.”

This rule of concession is greatly used on us, yet we fall victim to it. Purchase clothes, vegetables or hire a worker, you will hear the first price much higher than the original value.

In the aforementioned incident, however, the girls placed “a request requiring significant effort” and then “contrasted it with a small request” to get my approval on things I dislike – “answering irrelevant questions and getting interrupted in reading”. Two main reasons that compelled me to go against my wish:

1. I compared their first request to the second which was small

2. I felt guilty to refuse for the second time

And, these are the two main reasons that induce us to be exploited by the rule of concession. To decrease or eliminate the effectiveness of this rule, neither we should compare options – nor feel guilty. Therefore, at every step of your negotiation, be vigilant that these two emotions don’t influence you.

But be careful that you don’t cross the limits of humanity or politeness because then one becomes selfish and arrogant. How to be in these limits and yet have an edge is a delicate problem that arises next.

Do you know any solution of this problem? If yes, leave your intelligent comment or send a post to shadabhsn@gmail.com, I might publish it.

Postscript: The psychology students incident I wrote above was to give you a better understanding of the rule of concession. It was fictitious.

Bill Gates guided me

{This article of mine was published in the magazine of La Martiniere Boys' College, Lucknow, where I used to study.}

Ever feared if an unpreventable circumstance cuts you off this school and cancels your option of studying elsewhere?

WHAM.

Your life will come to a creaking halt. You will be burdened with more dullness than you can ever imagine. Yup, you will have a lot of time, but it has pleasure because currently you are busy. You will be friendless, lonely, and inactive.

So was I when a progressive visual impairment compelled me to leave this school. I failed in class 6th half yearly first but was then promoted to 7th where before getting out of this school I failed again and afterwards met more failures in grad and post grad also! Simple.

Yeah, you guys might have guessed that I was not so good at studies. Right.

And yeah, you guys might have also guessed that I kind of enjoyed my failures and school-getting out. Wrong.

These failures with my school-separation made me think of committing suicide. The sorrow of being separated from my school, teachers and friends is so seething that it still wounds my heart, though in time, I got over my failures. More years than a decade has have past and I continue to dream that I have returned to my early youth and am studying in your school. I rarely regret over things, but I deeply regret that a good piece of my teenage, in which each moment is more precious than a gold coin, has wasted. So sad, so fresh, the days that are no more. Tennyson. But…

Martinians! Changing the paragraph here because now am going to show you the positive side of the game.

Deprived of regular education, faltering over failures – and therefore exposing myself to mockery, I started to form a belief of my own.

I was sure that my academic record is not the measuring stick for my talents and potential. Charles Dickens had a formal education of not more than four years. Bill Gates was a Harvard dropout; Steve Jobs (the Apple guy) too was a dropout – Google out his college/university name – and btw Google-choreographers Larry Page and Sergey Brin were Stanford abandoners. Sachin also was a failure. In academics.

Back to me: I tried harder than one can think to pass in English but failed several times before I could obtain 3rd division marks. so much I was committed to my education that even if for a day I was unable to study, I used to fall ill.

Sometimes my failures filled me up with self-guilt, but my teacher (who presently is your principal) used to praise my writing, telling it would be my forte! A comforting thought for me was (and still is) that an eminent person and several people with knowledge have praised me for it, so I keep going. I currently am not a famous writer but am trekking that mount.

To my joy, I have got two job offers to work as a writer. Imagine in this competitive time a blind person with poor academics getting such offers.

I don’t do the blunder of defining myself by academic record or small achievements/failures. Nor Dickens, Gates, Jobs, Page, Brin did.

Will you?

Top success secrets you must know to beat failures

How bad of me! I tried hard yet I have failed in my exams. My heart is aching to think that my all friends have passed but I alone am left to drag behind. I am feeling lonely, but I don’t want to meet anyone, because they will ask about my exams.

Edward

If you are a fellow in action – unsatisfactory results can come your way. And over this you might stew, worry or better – run into depression like fictitious Edward.

BANG.

Actually this is the perfect opportunity for you to grow, improve, succeed and enjoy life in earnest.

Agree not with the above statement. agreeing with it without putting it to pass the test of understanding won’t be useful. Hmm, let us test the whole success-failure thing.

Is snaching superb marks the true success? But you might say many in the successful chunk such as Charles Dickens and Suchin Tendulkar had irregular studies.

Is landing on high-status jobs the true success? Now you might tell me the names of Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg, Albert Einstein – not to name Mahatma Gandhi or Nelson Mandela.

But, folks around us get stuck with such stupid, incorrect view of success – consequently depriving themselves from achieving the true success. Never allow those folks to put their unrealistic view into your head.

From whence then comes the true success?

The real success gushes forth from the passion to move on with a joyous heart even if besieged with failures.

Thomas Edison failed more than a thousand times before inventing the electric bulb. He said, "I am not discouraged, because every wrong attempt discarded is another step forward."

A predominant characteristic of ultimate achievers is that at every failure they eliminate ineffective techniques and keep on implementing new methods till they snatch success.

If you, in true sense, want to be successful – alter your perception of success. Don’t worry over small failures because they often prevent a person with talent to achieve true success.

There are people who have suffered huge failures but did not allow self-guilt to impede their actions.

You all know the war of Cargill in which Pakistan suffered a shameful defeat. Pervez Musharraf was the person to lead the Pakistani army to retreat. Instead of drowning in self-guilt or shame, he overthrew the democratically elected government and took the reins in his hands.

Place yourself in his situation – had you been able to face your countrymen and international media after such a debacle?

Only those who think that they have failed, fail. But those who choose to strive against odds emerge successful.

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Your friend was catching up an accelerated speed at his career track but a speed breaker activated power brakes putting a halt to that bustle. Pieces of encouragement like “You should come out of this sadness” or “Be positive” have gone in vain. And your constant care is bothering him because he doesn’t want his condition to attract attention.

Let me ask you a question before writing more:

What you feel when after a long gap you smell the soap or perfume you have earlier used for months or years? Hang in there and think!

Hang in there! Read further but first try to answer my question.

Let me guess…

Hmm, you unconsciously recollect the old time and slightly link yourself to it. Ever put on a T-shirt for a long time? Put it on again and you are with a shade of emotions of those old days. Right?

But tell me what on earth this has to do with encouraging a person?

By playing smartly with your friend’s unconscious mind, you can indirectly encourage him even if he is not so open to talk about his problem.

Say, if your friend had interest in photography, chat with him up about the incident when he was praised due to his skill or ask and push him to show you the photographs he had clicked and bounded over with joy and merriment. The effect of those beloved photographs will land him to the joy he had felt when he was in the buzz of activity.

His passion, hard work, admirations and all that crazy stuff will come afresh to him. The powerful feelings linked to the time which was the prime of his career will trigger a kind of joyous tides in his heart producing a bittersweet sentiment.

Sounds impractical? But when the odor of an insignificant product can refresh the old memories making you feel a reflection of the emotions of that time, then why cannot the things which were once so dear to your friend produce some tiny tides of joy in his heart?

Now you have to convert these tiny tides to a raging hurricane so that the dust of dullness and depression can be swept off – putting your friend back on the progress track.

But how to do that?

Advertisements can fetch you superb ideas. Advertisers fan our emotions in a manner that we link them to their products. When we watch Salman Khan saying in a risk-welcoming tone “Aj kuch tufani karte hain,” (Let’s do anything stormy today), our emotions intensify and we feel that Thums Up is meant for people who are fashionable, who are risk-welcoming, who know how to enjoy life etc. And when we toss open the bottle and gulp that injurious beverage, a reflection of the joy we had felt while watching the ad runs in our unconscious mind.

If you ride a Discover, you have a passion for speed and solidity. If you consume Panbahar Crystal, you are special and rich. If you use Everest for cooking food, you are a mom with lots of smarts.

The crux is to put the emotions of your friend to such an extreme that he links himself to the joy he had felt and can feel by restarting his old lifestyle.

Six tips to make a good resume

So what does it take to compose a perfect resume? A resume that could compel your potential recruiter to do an interview with you for that dream job? Remember your resume it is that positions the human resource person to form an idea about the kind of employee you can prove for the company.

A slip at this first correspondence and your chances for getting on that job are hacked. “This guy is not serious for the job,” the resume reviewer might declare. A cliché would be worth mentioning here: first impression is the last.

So a few tips to help you choreograph a good resume.

1. Write precise headings: Precise headings such as “Editing of sport section” remove ambiguity about the task you have undertaken. If you write “Editing” it will oblige the HR to read further which is highly improbable – given the workload of browsing numberless resumes to select a few. Resumes with specific headings are read in detail, not those with unclear headings. Let not the busy HR trash your resume because of imprecise, ambiguous headings.
2. Use rich keywords: Recruiters use ATS (Automated Tracking System) to skim over the resumes of potential employees. Resumes that are not keyword-rich don’t come in the radar of ATS, consequently filtering off loads of resumes. Ads and descriptions of the jobs you are applying for contain strong keywords, so write them in your resume in a manner that it does not amount to wordiness. Keyword stuffing will trim your chances of getting the interview call. And keyword weakness might throw your resume off the sight – so strike the right balance.
3. Support your claims: If you enlist the talents or skills you possess (i.e. leadership, creativity, practicality), supply some examples to support them – such as “Lead a team to take signatures of industrialists for manufacturing environmental-friendly products” or “Created an ap for farmers to know about the specific climate conditions” etc. merely writing your qualities will prompt the HR to search for evidence so that she can be convinced by your claims. Absence of evidence here will imply negativity.
4. Hobbies: If you do decide to mention hobbies, they must match the job profile in some way. Mention them only if you feel their mention is giving a hint to the HR that it will be a complement to the job profile. For example, you can write “Travelling,” “Meeting people,” etc., for an opening in journalism. Don’t write “Playing with children” as I did or “Chatting with friends” as others might do. The thirst for expressing hobbies should be quenched in a different company, not with prospective employers.
5. Pronouns: Your resume is a document about yourself, so it is a given that you will talk about yourself in it. Therefore, there is no need of using pronouns such as “I” and “me”.
6. Proofreading: Proofreading is an extremely crucial part of resume composing. To err is human, and it is very likely that you might make mistakes in writing lower case or upper case, in mentioning the names, phone numbers or addresses, so proofread your resume as many times as sufficient. You can also get a friend or any professional to review your resume before sending it out to your potential recruiter.

There are a host of other tips to making a resume as well, but I mentioned only a few. Were these tips helpful for you? Can you put any suggestions across? Want to share your views or any learning experience with the readers of this blog? Please do write your comments.

Eight tips to overcome ragging

Tips such as ‘Ignore them’ or ‘Be strong’ contain wisdom but very often we fail to apply them when surrounded by insensitive and merciless leg pullers. Yes, ‘Ragging is a small issue’, yet it often makes you feel miserable, so I am writing here the tips that worked excellently with me.

• Q: Know a simple fact that those who indulge in ragging are childish fellows. Treat them as you treat children. You will start enjoying their stupidity. If, amid an uproar of laughter you are able to genuinely smile, it would be overwhelming. Believe me, a couple of genuine smiles and casual retorts (i.e. ‘You are talking nonsense’ or ‘I think you seem to be crazier today’) have the potential to frustrate the entire bunch.
• W: Be full of ambition. Soichiro Honda had to face insulting laughter of his instructors and fellow students for a long time after his piston ring, which he created using his whole wealth, was rejected by Toyota. If he had cared about that ragging, we would have not heard the automobile company Honda. Schopenhauer had said it long ago: "Vulgar people take huge delight in the faults and follies of great men."
• E: Don’t keep retorting if a group is ragging you. Let them pass a lot of comments, this will somewhat tire them and decrease their interest. At a suitable time, confront the leader fearlessly and carelessly, your unexpected audacity would knock the stuffing out of him. Contrary to the popular opinion, many times people enjoy to see their leader under fire, so the chances for you to get a silent support are high. And the belief that only excessive or loud talk can help you overpower ragging is baseless.
• R: You might not be good at repartee. Don’t worry. Your brisk expressions matter much more than a quick-witted retort said unconfidently. Just remark fearlessly and casually as said above.
• T: If you have a group ragging you, and you feel that alone you are helpless, then you are totally incorrect. On the contrary, a little spark of cheerfulness is enough for you to make them sad because they will realize your unmoved will and their inability to derive enjoyment out of you. You don’t know the joy you get by sending a crowded bunch of leg pullers in a state of unexpected nervousness. Only your loneliness can offer this opportunity to you!
• Y: Don’t escape your leg pullers, because among other points, A: within your heart you might feel that you are weak, B: they will hunt you, and C: as it is rightly said – escaping from a problem is never a solution. Instead, if the situation requires you to go to them, shock them by plunging yourself among them energetically and cheerfully. Your body language plays a key role in holding back the leg pullers. Keep it dashing.
• U: Know it very properly that your leg pullers are inflicting losses on themselves. This I understood after worrying and burning terribly as two people sharply taunted and abused me pretty continuously. I was so frustrated that I felt like beating myself or getting violent with them, which they probably wanted. But one day I thought that they naturally are inflicting losses on themselves by wasting one of the best God’s gifts, which is time. Had I indulged in taking revenge, I would have not been able to inflict a tenth part of the injury that those adult kids caused to themselves.
• I: Thank your leg pullers because they remarkably help you develop your personality. You hatch out new ways of handling people and, this, besides making you resilient, sometimes compels you to go against your personality, which unbelievably hones your soft skills.

Can you suggest more methods of tackling ragging? Was this post useful? Please tell me by leaving a comment.

Ten Effective Tips to Clear Interviews

Testing soft skills or your personality is the main motive of interviews. After giving a go-ahead to your hard skills or academic background, the interviewers basically test how practical you are. Here are ten tips that would help you clear an interview:

1. Smile: Greet the interviewers warmly, with a pleasant smile. Your actions affect your mood, so even if you are nervous, a smile would remarkably ramp up your confidence. (A smile radiates positive energy...everyone likes a smiling face...and stuff like that you probably would have read.)
2. Back your claims: If you say you like travelling or reading, you would be asked about the places you have visited or the books you have read. If you say you possess good leadership qualities, supply some examples to back up your claim. For example, “I was a school prefect,” “I was the team leader in a college campaign carried out against global warming” etc.
3. Be honest: Know that people who probably have interviewed thousands of potential employees can read you like a book. Never even think of making up a story because it is a child’s play for the interviewers to catch you lying. Subtle, quick cross questioning is only one technique to have the truth blurted out from you. in obvious deceptions no one even takes the pain of doing this exercise. If you lag behind in a field, the employer can hire you because there is always a scope for improvement. But dishonesty is rejected outright. (I had a poor interview, yet I was offered the job because the interviewers found me honest. I was so nervous that I could not think of dishonesty!)
4. To the point: Know that your to-the-point answers manifest your focused approach. An imprecise answer gives a number of questions to the interviewers. Answering these needless questions could confuse you, deeply cutting your chances of getting the job. (Beware, interviewers sometimes take delight in boggling the minds of such interviewees.)
5. Never be overfriendly: An HR can talk with you as if you are his buddy. This can be to make you feel comfortable or to see your reaction. At such an instance, know that he is your employer, maintain decency and never become overfriendly – because generally ill-mannered people cross their limit.
6. Keep your cool: You can be asked one question repeatedly, smile and answer it as many times it is asked. It can be to see how cool and patient you are. The interview room is one of the worst places where you could brandish your irritation or anger. It isn’t the place where you gulp drinks with your girlfriend or hubby:P
7. Never lose hope: No matter how many times you fumble or could not answer, never think that you have spoilt the interview. If you are unable to answer the initial questions, forget it and give your best to answer the remaining ones. If you gracefully accept that you don’t know the answers, the HR can get impressed. Additionally, your calm expressions would talk expressively about how well you handle pressure.
8. Don’t backbite: Don’t backbite your teachers, former employers or anyone. By backbiting, a prospective employer, among other points, thinks A: You are not good at handling people, B: You are a job hopper or an unsteady employee, C: You will similarly backbite him as well. If discrimination has happened with you, and the situation really warrants you to speak about it (i.e. the interviewer inquires – “Why you quit your previous job?”), try to give an objective account of things and prompt the interviewer himself to conclude what you wish to say.
9. Information of the company: It is crucial that you have some information of the company you are seeking a job in. Log on to the website of the company and gather key facts about it – such as when it was founded, who is the CEO/president, its headquarters etc. Full forms of the companies famous by their acronyms like IBM (International Business Machine) should always be inquired. Small questions, if remain unanswered, can potentially make you embarrassed. Never overlook them.
10. Overcome your nervousness: Know a simple fact that it is not the only opportunity, the market is full of openings. The worst that could happen to you is that you won’t get that job. It is nothing. Try again. Fail again. Keep trying. You will surely be successful!

Refuse to give up

We are what we think.

All that we are arises

With our thoughts.

With our thoughts,

We make our world.

Lord Buddha

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A child was born in 1880, who, nineteen months later, lost her senses of hearing and sight. Think that can a deaf and blind child learn speaking or ever know the ways of the world? Yet this child grew to tell us: “Although the world is full of suffering, it is full also of the overcoming of it.” At 10 this deaf and blind child wished to speak, and she did it. This child thought in her heart – “Some day I shall enter college.” Years later she received her bachelors degree from the Radcliffe College. Universities of Harvard and Temple, U.S.; Glasgow, Scotland; Berlin, Germany; Delhi, India; and Witwatersrand in Johannesburg, South Africa offered her honorary doctoral degrees. Brazil’s Order of the Southern Cross, Japan’s Sacred Treasure, the Philippines’ Golden Heart, Lebanon’s Gold Medal of Merit, United States of America’s the Presidential Medal of Freedom were only few prestigious prizes bestowed upon her. A superb hurricane she was to send back the devastating waves that came to crush her; we know her by the name of Helen Keller!

When I read her autobiography – The Story of my Life– I was filled with shame, thankfulness and encouragement. I found it difficult to face myself; yet a drive to work and overcome my fears and weaknesses terrifically shook my soul and body.

Helen Keller brought light and enjoyment in her life and continues enlightening the lives of numerous others because she had made her world with her thoughts. Her positive thinking prompted her to find ways and take actions to realise her ambitions despite her so-called disabilities. As she thought that she will do it, she shook off the limitations her deafness and blindness had imposed upon her.

Lesson learnt:

Your circumstances won’t be able to prevent you from achieving success if you think you can do it! Lord Buddha: “We are what we think. / All that we are arises / With our thoughts. / With our thoughts, / We make our world.”

You will never hear a negative comment from successful people. True, at some points they might have uttered pessimism, but sometimes it is natural for humans to feel low.

Once a man became so hopeless and frustrated that he wished to die. But he refused to give up. He made a comeback and went on to write immortal books and earned so much success that his name H. G. Wellsis permanently engraved in the list of great people.

Who can prevent you from making a comeback like Wells did?

Think an answer before reading further...

Do not read, first think an answer.

No one – nothing has the power to stop you! Numerous powers are lying in disuse within yourself, use them. You are not using even a little part of your abilities. I am saying this because I have read what William James, who is referred as the founder of modern psychology, has said for you. Read the words of that great personality:

“Compared with what we ought to be, we are only half awake. We are making use of only a small part of our physical and mental resources. Stating the thing broadly, the human individual thus lives far within his limits. He possesses powers of various sorts which he habitually fails to use.”

Success is your right. Except your negative thoughts, no one, no circumstances can deprive you from claiming it. People who blame nonexistent things like luck or chance remain far from success. But the fact that you are reading this post till this point proves that you do not belong to that bunch. You may have become hopeless like Wells, but you can certainly become successful as him as well.

Do you have the courage to make a comeback?

Road to Success

“As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”

Holy Bible

“Some day I shall be the president.”

Abraham Lincoln

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As a first step to develop your personality, think what you think about yourself. Do you think you have the right kind of attitude and abilities that will enable you to be successful? Note that a “yes” from you would carry credibility only if you are putting forth a significant amount of efforts to move closer to your goal, because successful personalities prove beyond doubt that nothing is achieved without terrific efforts. If you are not executing efforts and answering “Yes,” then being polite I would like to tell you that you are dishonest with yourself.

Lincoln thought deep in his heart “Some day I shall be the president.” He proved that his thinking is honest because he worked diligently to achieve his aim. Bible: “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”

When will you start giving the required efforts from? From next month? From next week? From tomorrow?

No! From self experience I know that such resolutions are self-deceiving. The best time to employ yourself at a good work is the present moment. Feel shame for your inactivity, and if you are really apologetic, you must take the road to success at this very moment. Your movement ought to have such force that it also compensate for the time you have wasted.

You might frown at my unsympathetic words. True, I am not even a tiny drop of liquid in the vast ocean. But even if I had been like Lincoln, I would have not sympathised with you. You and I need motivation, much better if it is self motivation, not sympathy.

We have hidden powers like Lincoln or Newton had – they discovered and used those powers to improve their own, as well as the lives of numerous others. We are so big, motivated, powerful etc. that we don’t need sympathy. Sympathy of another human, let him be however elevated, makes a man dependent and resultantly he remains far from achieving the true success. Only God can sympathise with his creations. Dependence on God is the only dependence that makes us independent.

At this moment you don’t have a teacher or boss who could discipline yourself. In order to swing yourself into action, like successful personalities you need to exercise self-discipline, and self-discipline bears sweeter fruits than the discipline which is imposed upon you because it requires a greater effort of the will and significantly solidifies it. (The greater the plough, the better the yield.) This absence of a higher authority has provided you the opportunity to really test your will and sincerity. Will you be able to prove to yourself that you have the devotion and single-mindedness you need to succeed?

Then write out the answers to the following questions:

• What is my goal?
  
• How important it is for me to achieve it?
  
• What actions until now I have taken to get closer to it?
  
• Were there any faults or weaknesses in my approach?
  
• What I must do to eliminate them?
  
• What I need doing to accelerate my progress?
  

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Will be writing the next post for those who think themselves to be weak or untalented as many successful personalities did before achieving success. Till then, you must also answer the aforementioned questions, motivate and change your thinking on your own because you can certainly do it.

More common mistakes of English language

Mentioned here are some more common mistakes of English language. Please note that I will not go in detail because my aim in this post is to highlight the difference of the words that are similar and to furnish obvious errors so that readers can correct their mistakes. I request you to kindly let me know what you feel about these posts either by leaving your comments or by writing to me. Be brutally honest, your feedback will be of immense importance to me.

• “Seize” and “cease”. “S-e-i-z-e” is a verb and means to grab something: “I seized the opportunity of having coffee with him.” “My warden ma’am seized my phone.” “The police seized his property” “C-e-a-s-e” is also a verb and means to stop, end, desist etc. “We are ceasing to design websites.” “Our excellent services would never cease for our customers”
• “Except” and “accept”. “E-x-c-e-p-t” is a preposition and means apart from, excluding, but etc. “Except on Sundays, I don’t like wearing T-shirts.” “Except George, everyone passed” “A-c-c-e-p-t” is a verb and means to take, receive, agree, believe etc. “Please accept my offer.” “I accepted the letter.” “John accepted that I was right”
• “Effect” and “affect”. “E-f-f-e-c-t” is a noun and means result, consequence, outcome etc. “The effect of the revolution is that they gained independence.” “A-f-f-e-c-t” is a verb and means have an effect on, to pretend. “The bad weather affected my health.” “Ever since he has returned from America, he affects their accent.”
• “Site,” “sight” and “cite”. “S-i-t-e” is a noun and means a place, location, spot etc. “The construction site.” “S-i-g-h-t” is a noun and means view, spectacle, scene, the ability to see etc. “From this lobby the sea sight looks marvellous.” “Joe has some sight problem.” “C-i-t-e” is a verb and means to quote, name, mention, refer etc. “Citing the example of Gandhiji, Gita represented the theme of nonviolence.” “William cited several authentic books to prove his point.”
• “Practice” and “practise”. “P-r-a-c-t-i-c-e” is a noun and means rehearsal, preparation, training etc. “A week before the final presentation, it was the practice of students to give presentations among themselves.” “Peter made it a practice to run five kilometres every morning.” It is important to note that “practice” is also used as a verb in US English. “P-r-a-c-t-i-s-e” is a verb and means to repeatedly do something in order to gain mastery etc. “Everyday Sara practises on the typewriter.”
• The plural of “life” is “lives” not “lifes”. It should be “Our lives are good here” not “Our lifes are good here.”
• The plural of “wife” is “wives” not “wifes”. It should be “Tom’s wives are opposing his third marriage,” not “Tom’s wifes are opposing his third marriage.”
• Many people, writing the plural of “NGO,” put an apostrophe such as “NGO’s,” which is wrong. The correct word would simply be “NGOs”.
• The plural of “software” is never “softwares”. When I searched the plural form of “software,” I found out that it is a collective noun.
• “In fact” are two separate words, but many people join “in” with “fact” such as “Infact” which is wrong.

Common errors of English language

Common errors of English language

I am listing some common errors of English language.

• It is always “ma’am” but many people omit the apostrophe and write “mam” which is a blunder.
• In “up to,” there is always a space between “up” and “to”. It is never “upto”.
• In a sentence with “though,” “but” is not needed. You cannot say, “Though Tom is good, but his company is bad.” The correct sentence will read: “Though Tom is good, his company is bad.”
• “I will be more happier” is a blunder because double comparative is used. It should simply be “I will be happier.” This rule should be applied on all the similar sentences.
• People frequently err using “my” and “mine”. When “my” is used, the object has to be mentioned such as “My computer is not working.” “Where is my mobile?” “My shirt is loose” etc. But, when we use “mine,” the talked about object does not need to be mentioned. For example, if Tom talks further to “My computer is not working” – It should be “But mine is working well” – not “My is working well.” If he needs to answer the question “Where is my mobile?” it would be “It is with mine” – not “It is with my.” And talking about the shirt, he can say “Mine is fit” not “My is fit.”
• Difference between “Lose” and “Loose” is very obvious yet sometimes people get confused. “Lose” is a verb which means to be defeated – “Those who think they will win never lose,” to misplace or drop “I have lost my pen,” etc. “Loose,” on the other hand, is an adjective which means something not fit, tight etc. “My shirt is loose.” “Loose” can also be used as a verb. There are other meanings of these words but I merely highlighted the difference.
• “Does it works?” “What does he thinks?” are wrong sentences. The correct ones would read: “Does it work?” and “What does he think?”
• “Role” and “Roll” mustn’t be interchanged. “Role” is a noun and is used as “John has played a key role in the organization,” “The role of the comedian was crucial in the movie” etc. “Roll,” on the other hand, is a verb and is used as “He has rolled up the chart,” “The wheels of the vehicles were rolling” etc.
• “Past” and “Passed”. “Past” is an adjective which is referred when talking about a thing which has been over such as “past happiness,” “past president” etc. “Passed,” on the other hand, is the past tense of “pass”. “I have passed my graduation,” “Have you passed that information to everyone in the class?” etc.
• The pronunciation of “chore” (which is a noun and means a task or job) is as ch in child, and oor in door; but many people utter it from the K sound which is wrong. Cambridge dictionary website and howjsay.com are excellent sources to listen to the audio pronunciation.

Please click Avoid Common Errors and Errors to Avoid as I am sure that you all will find them very useful.

Separation

It is with a kind of an inexplicable joy that I am writing this post because I write very lightly yet you folks find it praiseworthy. (Inexplicable adjective: unable to be understood or explained.) I thank you all with my complete heart for appreciating my posts.

I am afraid I have not written here that I was in Delhi for a good period of time. I was pursuing diploma in computer applications and communications skills course from that big smoke. (Big smoke: big city.) I must timorously confess that I was never good at studies, and these courses were really beyond my abilities. (Timorously adverb fearfully or shyly.) But please don’t you presume that I failed in these courses for I did manage to get through them!

Somehow I also managed to get a job of website developer. It was like a lovely dream as this was the kind of job I was looking forward to! I was worried because my course was about to over and before that I had to get a suitable job.

My worry was intensified because employers all over India have preconceived notions against the blind, so for me, the chances of getting a suitable job were slim. Needless to tell, preconceived notions are wrong, and if they turn out to be right, it is due to sheer chance.

Whether these dim- witted (dim-witted: stupid or silly) employers understand this or not...I must tell that it is always ‘blind’ and not ‘blinds’; in plural we use it as ‘the blind’.

Anyway, as I was joyfully returning from the interview, it struck me that I will be separated from my friends. The grief of leaving them was so intense that it pretty overwhelmed me even in my joy. (Grief noun deep sorrow or suffering.) You rarely feel happy and sad at the same time, and when you do get in such a curious condition, a perplexed flood of excitement thrills your heart. Lost in excitement, I ran into the back of a parked truck and got an injury on my forehead from the protruding rods. (Protruding: sticking out.) Coincidently, as I write this post, a fresh injury at the same place on my forehead has been ripped open by a trolley which was hooked up to a tractor.

Those two days I was happy because the studies I had done were bearing fruits; sad because I was leaving my beloved friends; hopeful and nervous because I was entering the professional life; energetic because I had been appreciated; tired because of packing and finding a new place. It was an inexplicable storm of mixed emotions that I had never thought about.

We had planned that on getting jobs we will rent a flat and live together, but it was childish and impractical. Now we all are living in different cities: separation is all part of life’s rich tapestry. (Be all part of life’s rich pageant/tapestry [literary]: a sad and difficult but an unavoidable part of life.)

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Some useful phrases used above:
• Inexplicable joy
• Preconceived notions
• A perplexed flood of excitement
• An inexplicable storm of mixed emotions
• Childish and impractical

Talking up

I am sorry because I have not updated this blog since a very long time. But to my joy, I have been receiving your comments, and where most of them were
encouraging, a few appeared in any encrypted form (encrypted: electronic information or signals not understood due to secret coding.) I am amazed at the
creativity of people that how they manage to invent all that stuff! Naturally, I have not released those unclear comments.

At the moment I am stuck up in a building because some political leaders are about to arrive and due to security concerns I am unable to make a move.
I don't have my mobile phone otherwise I would have talked with my friend to while away these moments (while away something: to pass time in a relaxed
way as you have nothing to do or you are waiting for something.) So, I have cracked open this laptop to write for the blog. Good idea?

I phone my friends and love talking with them. (It is never 'phone to someone' - it is always 'phone someone'.) Spending time talking over phone often
makes people believe that you are having a romantic affair with someone, however, I am very far from it. Once my warden ma’am took me to task on this suspicion,
but thankfully I was able to convince her (take someone to task: to scold someone.)

A joyous thing in winters is warm sun. I enjoy warming myself in sun (not in sunshine / sunlight because linguistically it is wrong) and if I am having
tea and my beloved laptop is with me, it becomes like a dream.

I think that now those politicians have left and I can move. Heartfelt thanks for your sweet company and for bearing with me! I am very thankful because
you people like reading this blog, though really there is nothing special about it. I love you all!

Talking Again

I have numberless things to tell you but converting the thoughts to written words is a titanic task. I require a tremendous effort of the will to give a shipshape and clear exit to my thoughts and ideas (which try to rush out from my mind) otherwise whatever I write - it appears futile to the readers. This, I feel, is a common problem for all the novices; practice is the key to clarity.

As my fingers are dancing on the keyboard, the lovely breeze laden with the fragrance of the coming winters is filling me up with mirth. I can hear,
a bit far from here, a pigeon is flying and the sound of its wings is giving me joy; the sweet warmth of the setting sun is brimming everything with love and life!

But tell me anyone why on earth I am scribbling all this stuff when I wanted to tell you some common mistakes of English language? Beautiful weather
and romantic evening are actually forcing me to beat about the bush!

Listing the meanings of the words used above before going to the mistakes of English language:

1. Titanic [adjective] extremely powerful, strong, important or large (taken from dictionary.cambridge.org)



2. Shipshape [adjective] (informal) tidy and with everything in its correct place (taken from dictionary.cambridge.org)



3. Futile [adjective] (of actions) having no effect or achieving nothing; unsuccessful (taken from dictionary.cambridge.org)



4. Novice [n.] 1. A person new to a field or activity; a beginner. 2. A person who has entered a religious order but has not yet taken final vows. Also called novitiate. (taken from thefreedictionary.com)



5. Fragrance [noun] 1. A sweet or pleasant smell 2. A liquid which people put on their bodies to make themselves smell pleasant (taken from dictionary.cambridge.org)



6. Mirth [noun] (literary) laughter, humour or happiness (taken from dictionary.cambridge.org)



7. Scribble [verb] to write or draw something quickly or carelessly. Also scribble [noun] a careless piece of writing or drawing (taken from dictionary.cambridge.org)



8. Beat around the bush (UK also beat about the bush) to avoid talking about what is important (taken from dictionary.cambridge.org)

Mistakes of English language

• It is always “one of my friends / neighbours / shirts etc.” because you are pointing a single item from a group. You cannot say, “one of my friend
  / neighbour / shirt etc.”



• Never write “Your’s sincerely / faithfully” because it is always “Yours sincerely / faithfully” (People using screen readers need switching to all
  punctuation in order to get this one)



• The spelling of “surname” is (S-U-R-N-A-M-E) but folks like me put “I” instead of “U”!



• Past tense of “hurt” remains “hurt”



• Past tense of “hold” is “held” and not “holded”

If you wish to read more common as well as uncommon mistakes of English language, you can click Avoid
Common Errors and Errors to Avoid. These posts were thankfully appreciated
by the readers - you too might find them useful.

Trying something new

Tomorrow I have to give a presentation on global warming. But since my system went out of kilter, so I could not study anything about it.

I am feeling very nervous because of it. However, I will keep on preparing the presentation and when I will feel that my nervousness is exacerbating, I will get back to you so that I can freshen up my mind.

You might have noticed that I have not provided the meanings of the aforementioned words and idioms. This is because a candid reader very thankfully pointed out that it is disturbing to read the meanings interlaced in the post, so I settled on furnishing them at the bottom of this post. Well, I am trying something new, and I wish that you will enjoy it.

Alternating between the presentation and this post is enjoyable!

Last night I planned that I will be up early in the morning so that I can give sufficient time to the presentation. Yes the same planning; but I had not slept properly since two nights so previous night I slept like a log - and now I am pacing well behind the time!

I am getting a presentiment that I won’t be able to give the presentation properly. This is partly because it is a graphical presentation to which I am very new. I am afraid I have to cut short this post to focus more on the presentation lest tomorrow I will be fishing in troubled waters!

Words and idioms used above:


• Out of kilter: in a state of not working well (dictionary.cambridge.org)



• Exacerbate: verb To make something which is already bad worse (dictionary.cambridge.org)



• Candid: adjective Honest and telling the truth, especially about something difficult or painful (dictionary.cambridge.org)



• Interlace: verb To join different parts together to make a whole, especially by crossing one thing over another or fitting one part into another (dictionary.cambridge.org)



• Sleep like a log and sleep like a baby: to sleep very soundly (thefreedictionary.com)



• Presentiment noun [This word is formal]: A feeling that something, especially something unpleasant, is going to happen; a premonition (dictionary.cambridge.org)


• Fish in troubled waters: Fig. to involve oneself in a difficult, confused, or dangerous situation, especially with a view to gaining an advantage (thefreedictionary.com)

Talking again

Talking again

I am very silently writing this post so that our warden ma’am remains unaware that I am in the computer lab. Hush, she is sleeping, so I will make less noise.

Actually we are not allowed to enter the lab so early in the morning but I come in a surreptitious manner! ‘Surreptitious,’ according to dictionary.cambridge.com, is an adjective which means ‘done secretly, without anyone seeing or knowing.’

To my surprise, I recently learnt that our warden ma’am is above 60. But hale and hearty, she keeps on roaring and running around the hostel like a commando. ‘Hale and hearty’ is used when we refer to people who are strong and energetic in spite of their old age.

Before sneaking in the lab I had no idea that what I will write. But thanks to this roaring warden ma’am that I have got ample ideas to write on. If ever she will know that I am writing such rubbish about her, she will definitely haul me over the coals! ‘Rake / haul someone over the coals,’ according to thefreedictionary.com, means ‘to give someone a severe scolding.’ She last raked me over the coals when she found that my bed was untidy, and I did nothing to make it tidy!

Please do not mind it - I am a workshy chap so I rarely like to clean my room! ‘Workshy,’ (adjective) thefreedictionary.com: ‘not inclined to work; lazy.’

I am going out to bring a cup of tea for myself. Please wait.

Hmm, I am back. I was feeling a bit drowsy but because of this tea I am feeling as fresh as a daisy! Now some of you will think that what the dickens ‘be fresh as a daisy’ is.’ Well, according to thefreedictionary.com, it means ‘to be full of energy and enthusiasm.’

When I gave a start to this post I had no foreknowledge what its matter is going to be. But, encouraged by your feedback, I wrote it. Did I pan out as a blogger?

Before shutting up let me copy paste the meaning of ‘pan out’ from thefreedictionary.com! This phrasal verb means ‘To turn out well; be successful.’

Talk up

Talk up

It has been a long time since I posted last. Every Sunday I used to think that I will write but I found myself tasked anywhere else.

Thankfully, today as time is on my hands, I thought of talking with you. ‘Time on your hands’ means ‘a time when you have nothing to do’ and this is the favourite period of my life because in it I pursue whatever I wish to!

I had planned that on Sunday I will wake up early so that I could clear the mess of my room and wash my clothes. Writing here, reading David Copperfield and meeting a person was also in my mind.

But I must confess that last night I kept on tossing and turning because I was thinking where the devil to get a job from! Due to this reason I have not been able to properly execute the plan I had made for this Sunday. ‘Toss and turn’ means ‘to be unable to sleep because of any trouble.’

Thinking about the little appreciation people give me, and ignoring how false it is, I slept!

I woke up pretty fresh, albeit late. When on Sundays I don’t set out for any place, I read and write a lot. I also drink lots of tea and coffee!

Never put ‘A’ when you say ‘lots of’ - and never skip ‘A’ when you say ‘a lot of’. It is never ‘a lots of’ and it is never ‘lot of’. A lot of people make this mistake and it is curious that lots of them even know about it!

Such oversights should be taken care of, because they discolour the communication. ‘Oversight,’ according to the Cambridge Dictionary, is a noun and it means ‘a mistake made because of a failure to notice something.’

In writing the aforementioned stuff, my computer hanged several times, and it broke my heart to smithereens. ‘Smithereens’: ‘small pieces or bits’.

So, I will end this post here. I have to also wash my clothes! It would be heartening to hear from you. I like you all very much! God bless everyone!

Improving English

Improving English

If you sincerely write what you feel, you will catch the attention of your readers. I have read that the writing style that touches the heart of the reader springs from a sincere heart.

Words

Prosaic: adjective (Formal) lacking interest, imagination and variety; boring. [This meaning was from dictionary.cambridge.org]

If you are in love with the career you are in, you will never find your life prosaic.

Stonewall verb to stop a discussion from developing by refusing to answer questions or by talking in such a way that you prevent other people from giving their opinions. [This meaning was from dictionary.cambridge.org]

Mr James, understanding that he won’t be able to defend himself, chose to stonewall the matter.

Doughty: adj. Marked by stouthearted courage; brave. [This meaning was from thefreedictionary.com]

The corporate sector is meant for doughty characters.

Idioms

De trop (formal) unnecessary, unwanted or more than is suitable. [This meaning was from thefreedictionary.com]

Presuming that the praises showered on him are de trop, Tom got embarrassed.

The in thing (to do): the fashionable thing to do. [This meaning was from thefreedictionary.com]

Consuming soft drinks is the in thing to do.

Cooler heads prevail: Fig. the ideas or influence of less emotional people prevail. (Used of a tense situation.) [This meaning was from thefreedictionary.com]

People know that cooler heads prevail, but little they do to get rid of their emotions.

Phrases

Incomparably excellent: Sachin is incomparably excellent at batting.

Inborn refinement: An orator of inborn refinement easily attracts the attention of his audience.

Insufficient appreciation: Tom was disheartened due to the insufficient appreciation his work received.

I will also furnish a few common mistakes we make, so please keep on coming to this little place.

Improving English Etc.

Improving English Etc.

Bear with me as I know that I am taking long silences. But a new feature called FeedBurner has been added to this blog using which you can subscribe to my posts.

For those who are using screen readers: I am afraid - in the process of getting subscription captcha will intimidate you. Just let me know if you face difficulty passing it and I will try to get you through the thing.

Captcha is to confirm whether the user is a human or robot. In the technical language, “robot” is referred as “bot” - meaning that it is controlled by anyone else.

A “bot” is a part of a huge number of hijacked computers that are controlled by a single person. And a group of hijacked computers is called “botnet”.

Can I tee off the English stuff? Here is the meaning of “tee off”! This phrasal verb means “to begin something” or “to make angry or disgusted.”

I have taken the meaning of the aforementioned phrasal verb from (thefreedictionary.com). I mentioned the source otherwise Google would have teed me off by banning my blog!

A very positive English proverb is: “The darkest hour is always before dawn.” This proverb says just before sunrise the sky is at its blackest - implying that when good time is in the offing the problems too are at their extreme.

“In the offing” is an idiom which means “anything likely to happen soon.”

My holidays are in the offing - so hopefully I will visit home!

How many of you are living away from home? How lovely the embrace of the family is, one learns after living away from it. I won’t add anything to it otherwise pearly tears might stream down from the beautiful eyes of anyone! I have a very nice nephew, who misses me a lot.

Why do you people always misunderstand me!

Difference between ‘elder’ and ‘older’. ‘Elder’ is used when a person refers to the members of his own family. An example: My elder brother has a nice voice.

Importantly, when ‘than’ is used with ‘elder’, the sentence will read: “My sister is ten years elder than I.” It is wrong to say “My sister is ten years elder than me.”

‘Older’ can be used with both people and things. But, when it is used with people, a person cannot refer to the members of his own family.

You can say “The boy sitting in the first row appears older to me.” But it would be wrong if you say “The boy sitting in the first row appears elder to me,” because that boy isn’t your family member.

Using ‘older’ with things is very simple: “This building is older than that one.”

I hope that I will not tee you off by talking a bit about business!

Assets: Things of possessions that can be converted into cash are called assets. Cash is also assets.

Assets are of two types: fixed assets and current assets. Fixed assets or long-term assets have a life of more than a year. Land, Building, machinery etc., are fixed assets. Additionally, there are intangible fixed assets like the goodwill or brand of a company.

Things that can be easily and quickly converted into cash are current assets. These include money at the bank, bills receivable, debts (the money which someone has to pay you back) etc.

A customer gives bills receivable to the businessman in the place of cash. Thereafter, these bills receivable are quickly converted into cash.

That was all I brought for you. If you have any suggestions for me or if you find me erring anywhere, just let me know. I will really love to read anything written by you.

Let’s Talk

Let’s Talk

I wrote here that I will furnish some financial and technical terms. These terms are used very often yet many a times people don’t understand them. But it is very important for us to have an idea of these terms, because they extensively come in use. Further, I forgot to tell you that I will keep on furnishing stuff which would help you improve your English, because I was distracted by the two idiotic but nice girls who coloured me while I was writing the post.

Girls are becoming rather frolicsome these days! My teacher told me this after reading my post. He might have thought my vocabulary is good. But I needed looking up the meaning of ‘frolicsome’ in the Cambridge dictionary!

‘Frolicsome’ is an adjective which means “enthusiastic and playful.”

Responding to his email I made a blunder. I wrote. “Thanks a lot for taking out time of reading my post despite of your intensely hectic schedule.”

We never add ‘of’ with ‘despite’. ‘Of’ is used with ‘in spite’. So the correct sentence will read:

Thanks a lot for taking out time of reading my post in spite of your intensely hectic schedule.

Sir please excuse your student!

A bad thing about me is that I rarely prepare for things. This is the secret of my failures. I enjoy reading impromptu and spontaneous pieces.

‘Impromptu’ adjective (dictionary.cambridge.org): “done or said without earlier planning or preparation.”

You will not look the meaning of ‘spontaneous’ in the dictionary website I mentioned above! Am I right? So here it is

‘Spontaneous’ adjective: “happening or done in a natural, often sudden way, without any planning or without being forced.“ Telling you another secret - this is an impromptu post!

I am giving a start to the financial glossary by telling the meaning of ‘deflation’. When the prices of goods and services go down, we call it ‘deflation’. ‘Inflation’, on the contrary, is the state when the prices of goods and services rise.

Do you know the meaning of ‘bull market’? In a ‘bull market’ prices normally rise and the confidence of investors gets a boost.

Well, now I am going to wind up this impromptu post by telling a technical word. A ‘CARDER’ is a person who steals credit card numbers or information related to them and earns a living. Idiot.

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